Bullying and Ganging Up Response

"The reason people bully others is that bullies feel it is the only way for them to fit in.  What many people don’t realize is that you can get even more respect making friends then you can bullying." 

   -Stolen from Sam Everett's Blog

I have to say, I completely agree with this. I do believe that the reason why people bully others is so that they themselves can feel a sense of power and strength. Although the bully may not realize this themselves, they subconsiously are doing this and consiously thinking that the victim they are picking on deserves the treatment. On the inside, this bully feels like they themselves have no way of fitting in and alienating other people for the fun of it automatically puts the other person under them. The fact that they themselves are not able to feel like they fit in drives them to hurt others and attempt to make friends by ganging up on a person. Like Sam said, these people simply want to be accepted and by bullying someone they expect to be liked and to gain a respect from everyone around them. They do not realize that what they are doing makes everyone think that the bully is just mean and the bully would just feel the same form of isolation as before, but now, everyone is afraid of even interacting with them. There are many situations that I have seen a bully gang up with other bullies in order to pick on one person. This kind of ganging up is supposed to benefit all the bullies. In some way, they feel like they are all outcasts and are constantly being looked down on for who they are. They attempt to bring others down to a level in which they felt they were at, even if the victim was not one who made them feel like the way they did in the first place. It is uncommon to find a bully who bullies people simply because he or she likes to do it.
The ASTI constitution was made for the purposes that bullying will not happen. Everyone should be conscious of the way they treat others and think about what they do before doing it. Otherwise, we will all become enemies of each other and the ASTI community will no longer be tight knit, but would run with a vibe that screams "hate".

my humungo ASTI family :)

Great Grandparents :D
Mr. Sutherland:
The coolest, dirtiest, great grandfather/ teacher in the world!

Francis Cabotaje:
Great Grandpa Francis was recently added into our family. He volunteered to be the great grandfather because of his awesome white, grey, and black hair :)
 

Kaila Belgarde:
My great grandma likes to walk and act like a typical cranky old person, but is the most awesome grandmother ever.

Grandparents x)
Kim Alvarez:
Oh gosh Kim...don't even get me started. She's another typical grandmother who sits in front of a tv, but not just a Filipino channel. Nope. She watches all the most popular dramas like Gossip Girl, Pretty Little Liars, Huge, and much much more. She can name more actors and singers then I ever can....

Moms:
Annie Mae Young:
Yes, she's my mother....She claims to be Filipino even though she's the most pale person I know. My mommy is a reader. Sometimes I think that that's all she does everyday. But my dad is Kevin Jonas. Yes, the oldest Jonas Brother who recently got married. Don't even get me started about that.

Peter Chen:
Peter....is my asian mother.(: I have no idea how this came about but....he's my mother. and....I suppose that means I love him :D

Brianna Youngblood:
Mommyyy :D Brianna was the first one to call me her daughter at ASTI.
Mommy is the best, but I don't get to see her enough :(

Dads:
Kyle Salter:
He likes rainbows apparently.....He and Brianna are supposedly married. He is the only Caucasian in my family and he's special in every way :D

Leon Liang:
He's my asian father. He yells at me everyday and we poke fun at each other all the time xD He doesn't like to call me "daughter" simply because he thinks it sounds weird. So I'm his "son". -.-''

Tiffany Cao:
Tiffany is my other father. Tiffany and Peter became my parents at the same time and somehow, mixed up the titles. Tiffany is by far the best dad I have (sorry leon and kyle xD) she cooks for me and lets me steal all her rasberry tea :)

Siblings:
Sisters~~
Amber Chan:
She's the greatest and best sister in the freakin world (: Yes, I call her a chair and i blame this all on facebook asking me about what type of furniture she represents most :D Hehe. Now, before ASTI, we both went to Lincoln, but the most we said was "hi". Now, we go crazy and creepy on everyone :D Though we're obviously not twins (according to Annie), we're definatly sisters :PP


Karen Situ:
This girl is LOUD and I think that's the only reason why we're related xD We would always be yelling at each other across the classroom or across streets with everyone staring at us thinking "What the heck???

Brothers~~
Jay Pan:
Jay is the newest to the family and I adopted him one day after PE. He's super funny and really easy to talk to. I still have to find a way to make him do something crazy with me, but I'm working on it!

M.R :
I'm not exactly sure if he's my brother or not, but I'm sure Kyle wouldn't mind adopting him into the family :D
The only reason why he's under 'siblings' is because the day I was screaming at Jay to tell him he's my brother, MR thought I was talking to him. :] anywho, welcome to the family MR :D

Wify/ Husbands (:
Janice Truong:
She's my PE and mustache drawing buddy. We go hiking over the hill after PE everyday, so technically, she is obligated to be my wife. xD


Vanessa Berrios:
Vanessa and I have a weird relationship. She's scared of me, but she loves me. XD vice versa!
But she's still my wife because last year, in Higashi's class, we were making babies and she was my partner. We made a blond haired blue eyed baby named Nathan Justin. (yes. justin bieber becaue when i drew him, he looked exactly like Justin Bieber) We have a thing for lollipops and ring pops ;]

Saskia Sumida:
Saskia is my LOVE! We had PE together last year and our child is the biggest football in the PE cart. We go to Starbucks every week and just go crazy on the sugar :D

Children:
Camal Saleh:
LOL i recently adopted this one....everyone calls him their son, but he's MY son! He even calls me mom. xD
HI SONNN :D

BESTFRIENDS!
Jason Adiong:
heh....Jason's nickname from me is "friend". I literally tell him everything and even though now, I don't really talk to or see him now, he's still my best friend.


John Hamilton:
Last year, John proclaimed to me that he was my new bestfriend. He helps me through so much nowadays and I really do trust him :)

Marco Powell:
LOL Marco.....I sit next to him in anatomy and now were best friends :P
Simple as that. We argue on just about anything and yet, we're still friends...amazing.....
heh. Yes yes Marco. Of course you're my bestfriend :D....*ahem* I kinda lost that cheapo rubberband friendship bracelet you gave me :P I'll find it soon though...

vampires anyone?

Twilight and Vampire Diaries are just two of the many popular books and forms of exciting and suspensful enterntainment. Anyone can literally sit up in bed and read a book or they can microwave some popcorn, wrap a blanket around yourself and enjoy a long night of creepy "blood-suckers". Of course there are those who just don't like vampire books altogether thinking that things are corny. For those people, there are parodies of these absolutely dumb and boring creatures of the night. For example, the new movie, Vampire Suck.
Even for Twilight lovers like myself, Vampires Suck becomes a different type of entertainment to see the stupidity of the very thing us vampire-lovers obsess over. *sigh* the greatness of entertainment these days (:
So which would you like to watch or did you like watching? Twilight or Vampires Suck?

13. 'Just Kidding' and 'Ganging up' from The Odd Girl Out

         A time when i had been harassed by a larger group was two year. This made me feel demoted and my self-esteem went downhill. I had a lot of breakdowns and instead of having people to go to, I thought that there was no one there for me because I felt that everyone would judge me for what my actions are. I didn't have any confidence in myself at all. My options in this situation were to find someone I can trust or to build confidence in myself. I decided that it wasn't worth it to bring myself down simply because of the people who had ganged up on me. I can't deny that I have done this before myself, but now, I think twice before I would do this to someone. I think that people bully others either because at some point in their own lives, they feel like they were put down in some way, or that they simply want to make themselves feel better. 
         Most of the time, it is because a person doesn't have self-esteem themselves and feel threatened by those who they envy, so they take gang up on someone to make themselves feel better. I believe that everyone has a degree of insecurity, but everyone has their own ways of coping with it. Bullying is just the easist way to express their power over others.